Lessons from my Immigrant Dating Roadmap

On things that feel like liberation, but aren’t, pingponging between oppressions, and paving third options

I wrote this essay a little over a year ago. I haven’t shared it because honestly, for the last year, I haven’t felt super inclined to invite in a western gaze on my immigrant experience. How do I write truthfully about the complicated nature of straddling two cultures, without perpetuating harmful stereotypes about my people? I have no desire to feed …